Hello Big Boi, I would just like to echo what Tojo has said. I use almost the same analogy when I am introducing people to the chat room.

I just read your personal advert

Quote Originally Posted by Big Boi
I'm Big Boi i'm currently looking for female or male subs who are willing to please me. I'm a strict master, so its my way or nothing. If anyone one is intrested or wants to find out more please email me at b_igbo_i@hotmail.com Oh yes another thing , You must have a web cam so I can see how You progress in your training.
Now by definition it is a personal advertisment so what you include is your decision; but I am a sub and in the spirit of trying to help you find what you want, your advert does nothing for me. Looking down the Doms' personals I have extracted the last three.

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5730
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=6024
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=6025

In each of these very different advertisments not only are there clear hints as to the Dom's personality but also the respect they would have for their sub.

Although I am a high end sub, if anyone, Dom or otherwise said to me "its my way or nothing" you would not see me for dust. It is a warning sign that says that person could be abusive, and I would have no intention of staying to find out.

I would echo again what Tojo said, if you wish to find someone here, become involved with the community, become active in some of the threads, let us get to know you, and at the same time find out more about us and BDSM.

In the meantime you might wish to read these threads to broaden your perception of BDSM.

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=4529
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5363

Please PM if you wish - although I hasten to add that I am NOT looking for a Dom!

Wishing you happiness
cariad