Having Problems, help

[Big Boi]

Hi I'm new to this site and i'm trying to find some subs , male or female. I've left a couple posts and emailed a couple people but i'm still having no luck.
HELP!

[Silke]

What're you looking for specifically? Someone to play with, someone to meet in real life....do you just want to exchange some ideas, have questions?

You get the idea...you might want to tell us more specifically what you need. And just have a little more patience - maybe you want to join in the discussions here, let people know who you are...the rest will come naturally.

If you're searching for a sub and want this post to be moved to the Personals section, please let me know by responding to this thread and I'll take care of that for you.

Silke

[Tojo]

As both Silke & Maddie have said, tell us a bit about yourself.

Actually what they say kind of covers it all. Imagine if you go to a party with the express intention of finding a girl for a bit of company or whatever. You wouldn't just walk in the front door & say 'hey any girls want to come with me?'

Well I hope you wouldn't! Anyone with sense would wander around & get to know people, join in a few conversations & put themselves out for people to see.

A forum is much like a party, only with no loud music...

Try joining in & introduce yourself? Reply to a few posts & show us the great guy you are. This can be applied to anyone looking for a partner here.

Believe me, there's no shortage of lovely young ladies here- my favourite saying is 'so many girls, so little time'

Tojo

[cariad]

Hello Big Boi, I would just like to echo what Tojo has said. I use almost the same analogy when I am introducing people to the chat room.

I just read your personal advert

I'm Big Boi i'm currently looking for female or male subs who are willing to please me. I'm a strict master, so its my way or nothing. If anyone one is intrested or wants to find out more please email me at b_igbo_i@hotmail.com Oh yes another thing , You must have a web cam so I can see how You progress in your training.

Now by definition it is a personal advertisment so what you include is your decision; but I am a sub and in the spirit of trying to help you find what you want, your advert does nothing for me. Looking down the Doms' personals I have extracted the last three.

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5730
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=6024
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=6025

In each of these very different advertisments not only are there clear hints as to the Dom's personality but also the respect they would have for their sub.

Although I am a high end sub, if anyone, Dom or otherwise said to me "its my way or nothing" you would not see me for dust. It is a warning sign that says that person could be abusive, and I would have no intention of staying to find out.

I would echo again what Tojo said, if you wish to find someone here, become involved with the community, become active in some of the threads, let us get to know you, and at the same time find out more about us and BDSM.

In the meantime you might wish to read these threads to broaden your perception of BDSM.

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=4529
http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=5363

Please PM if you wish - although I hasten to add that I am NOT looking for a Dom!

Wishing you happiness
cariad

[Ozme52]

In a venue like this, you have to be able to paint a picture with the written word that your audience finds enthralling.

You not only have to be a Cunning Linguist... ...but you have to be at least a fullwit... maybe even a full'n'a'halfwit.

Put yourself on display by joining in some of the conversations. When/if you get good responses, your wit and wisdom become your resume for approaching prospective partners.

[Warbaby1943]

You not only have to be a Cunning Linguist... ...but you have to be at least a fullwit... maybe even a full'n'a'halfwit.

I like that Oz. Before I would have thought a Cunning Linguist in itself would have been enough.

I have to echo everyone else's comments. This family needs to be introduced to you and you to us. It's is entirely up to you from this point but there are many very helpful and knowledgeable people here who always seem to be willing to help anyone. Try us, you may like us.