When your Master is to possesive

[John56{vg}]

Arria,

IMHO, these are the wisest words stated in this thread in answer to creamy's question.

thank you.

Listen to your gut feeling. The fact that you posted this question already shows you think this guy is troublesome.

I also assume he is a control freak. If a grown-up person has that sort of psychological disorder, run as fast as you can... you cannot help him anyway, he would have to seek professional help.

This sort of guy will only make you unhappy. As it is not possible to control a person´s every move unless you poke out his eyes and tie him down in your basement behind a locked door, the control behavior will get ever worse.
This kind of person tends to be physically abusive as well! Mind that! It is a hellish circle - the more he checks on you, the more you need to get away, but that in turn makes him get only more possessive. Correction/amateur help is not possible. RUN.
(Besides: Do not try to explain it to him in much detail, he will only believe there is another guy / your evil friends behind your decision. Such guys do not do you the honour of realizing that you have a mind of your own, and such guys NEVER consider the possibility that their own behaviour might be the cause of the problem...
in case you wonder, YES, I had such a guy once as well, and am glad that I managed to get rid of him.)

Kind regards
Arria

[cariad]

In real life, I only know the workings of one D/s relationship, and that is my own. However I have observed many vanilla relationships and have realised one thing, never to try to understand why a particular relationship works. My observation of people, their feelings, discussions about their relationships etc here makes me appreciate that the same applies.

There are some subs, strong capable people too, who would embrace a Dom such as yours, wallowing in the attention to detail which he provides. Others, such as yourself feel smoothered by it. That does not make him a bad Dom, or you a bad sub. I would suggest however that it does perhaps make you the wrong sub for him, and him the wrong Dom for you.

From what you have said, I suspect that this relationship is still fairly new, and you are still learning about each other's styles and expectations. Perhaps you are now learning that you are not as compatible as you once thought. If so, then perhaps it is time to discover the friendship within the relationship, and nurture that as you agree to part as a D/s couple.

I think you need to sit back and think very hard about whether this is a relationship you are going to feel happy and secure within. If it is, then you will do everything in your power to make it work, if it is not, then it is time to return your collar and see what is left.

cariad