Who/what brought out the inner sub in you

[armybondy]

My husband and I are just starting to explore the Dom/sub waters, but we noticed a long time ago that I liked it when he used the rope and under bed restraints. I went through some bad stuff a while back with being assaulted and I couldn't handle being restrained in any way for a long time, but my husband and slowly made me feel safe with him to the point that I am not afraid to let him restrain me. Things have slowly progressed to the point that I have realized that I have always excercised so much control in my daily life with running my household, having been an active duty Soldier a while ago and having a lot of responsability to the personnel my office took care of as well as the personnel in my section, the bedroom is the one place that I can let someone else take control instead of me. I am not a full time sub (OMG, I assert my household authority in a second!!), only in the bedroom and only when I am in the right mindframe for it... but when I am in the right place, he really enjoys taking control.

[Zarine13]

I didn't know anything until I was in my mid 20's. Even then I thought I was just kinky. I had no inkling that I was a sub until about 4 years ago.

When I started I knew I was into rope and pain. I was a bottom. All of my life I've been a bottom though. Even when I was topping it was done by request.

Four years ago I started reading because I knew there was a 'community' of folks that liked what I did. Everything I read about submission resonated with me. Since then I have been looking for that person I could give my all to. I think I've found him finally. He makes me want to submit to him more than just physically. I've told him as much. He is going sooooo slow its infuriating me, but I'm trying to be patient and let him lead me into the rabbit hole.

[mistik]

I used to spank myself as a little girl. A lil odd I guess but I had an obsession with spanking. I always got excited about watching old movies where an angry parent would take a naughty child behind the wood shed & cane them. Never thought much about it & more or less kept it a secret. Then, when I was in my mid teens I stumbled across some BDSM stories that got me all hot & bothered. I knew immediately that this lifestyle was appealing to me & that I was a submissive. I was so relieved to discover it had a name & that I wasn't alone in my feelings. Once I had that epiphany I spent every spare moment I had researching more about it & trying to learn as much as I could & the rest as they say is history!

[thir]

Dreams! Coming out of the blue when I was in my early 20's. A week later I started having dominant dreams.

Situation much like Liushka and pegao describes.

[Reya]

When I was younger I was watching anime over at a friend's house (online) and she accidentally clicked on a tentacle rape show. I was completely and utterly amazed. When I was old enough to actually see a boyfriend as more then a high school status symbol I found out about bondage and the rest is history.

[Aliandras]

i dated and dated and dated and could never seem to find any respect for the men i was with. They were "weak" for lack of a better term. They could never keep me tame. I didn't like the constant "i'm sorry" and the way they would just bow to me. One day while i was working a customer came in and had a seat. He was waiting on one of my employees who was taking their sweet time getting things done. I got tired of watching her fumble over everything and just moved her aside to get it done proper. He was watching me the whole time and it actually unsettled me. When i was finished helping him he asked me out for dinner, and i accepted, he was very handsome. Right before he left the building he turned to me and told me that when he came to pick me up I was to wear the same high heels that i had on at work, i was about to say that they were too uncomfortable but i was cut short by the way he looked at me when i went to speak. I was so shocked and very turned on at that moment that he stopped me just like that. I was waiting for him on my front step in my heels 10 mins before he was suppose to be there

[Liushka]

I honestly didn't really expect to ever be submissive with anyone. Part of me had an inclination for it, but between my very dominative side (that still is a great part of me) and that I never found a man I really connected with, it wasn't very obvious.

I honestly came to the realization that I could enjoy being a sub when I talked with my fiancé, even before we actually got together. He is the only person to dominate me, and I like it, even if it still causes me issues at times, though those are not related to our relationship as he is always doing his best for me and help me with many things. Thanks to him I am able to actually be a full fledge switch.

[Pegao]

i'm kind of in the same position as Liushka.. have always been more aggressive/dom.. and really found a lot of guys boring because of it.. i met my current partner when he was going through some crazy stuff.. that kind of interfered w/a relationship.. but is a really natural Dom. sorting his stuff out.. that side has kind of been.. clarified in him.. and is sexy as hell. we still butt heads.. bc we're both pretty stubborn guys that each want our way.. but he ends up getting his

[Zarine13]

I posted in this thread a few months ago. I've changed my views since then. I'm starting to wonder if I'm submissive at all or just a bottom. I seem to be too feisty and sassy for any of the Doms I have met. So if all I wind up being is a bottom, I'm good with that. I *want* to find the one that will be able to dominate me, but if that means I have to stop being who I am, then I'll settle for being a bottom.