Who/what brought out the inner sub in you

[mistik]

I used to spank myself as a little girl. A lil odd I guess but I had an obsession with spanking. I always got excited about watching old movies where an angry parent would take a naughty child behind the wood shed & cane them. Never thought much about it & more or less kept it a secret. Then, when I was in my mid teens I stumbled across some BDSM stories that got me all hot & bothered. I knew immediately that this lifestyle was appealing to me & that I was a submissive. I was so relieved to discover it had a name & that I wasn't alone in my feelings. Once I had that epiphany I spent every spare moment I had researching more about it & trying to learn as much as I could & the rest as they say is history!

[Reya]

When I was younger I was watching anime over at a friend's house (online) and she accidentally clicked on a tentacle rape show. I was completely and utterly amazed. When I was old enough to actually see a boyfriend as more then a high school status symbol I found out about bondage and the rest is history.

[superfuture]

For me, I didn't understand what being submissive meant. I tried hiding behind vanilla relationships where the men in my life, could not 'handle' me, and/or would turn into very bad experiences in their attempt to force submission out of me. So I let go of any type of relationship for a long time, focused on my family and career, which in some ways has been beneficial, but I knew that something was lacking - an elusive wisp of an existence that I was searching for....

Ironically, I was to discover the possibilities through a chat room on a vanilla site. I was going about the chat room... as I have always done... <inserting a comment here... or my opinion there..> but on this day, someone had made a comment about flogging someone else in the room... and my eyes perked up, and I made a casual reference to that person being a 'Dom'.. and chuckled it away. Well he sought me out.. sent me an email.... and after chatting... my eyes were opened... I had finally found what I had been searching for, a name to connect with all of the feelings that I held deep within my heart. I am very grateful for that particular person, and his patience in explaining some of the finer details.

[Aliandras]

i dated and dated and dated and could never seem to find any respect for the men i was with. They were "weak" for lack of a better term. They could never keep me tame. I didn't like the constant "i'm sorry" and the way they would just bow to me. One day while i was working a customer came in and had a seat. He was waiting on one of my employees who was taking their sweet time getting things done. I got tired of watching her fumble over everything and just moved her aside to get it done proper. He was watching me the whole time and it actually unsettled me. When i was finished helping him he asked me out for dinner, and i accepted, he was very handsome. Right before he left the building he turned to me and told me that when he came to pick me up I was to wear the same high heels that i had on at work, i was about to say that they were too uncomfortable but i was cut short by the way he looked at me when i went to speak. I was so shocked and very turned on at that moment that he stopped me just like that. I was waiting for him on my front step in my heels 10 mins before he was suppose to be there

[steelish]

but that is the way it is supposed to be, pet. You and i are a wonderful pair. you make me whole and able to rise to another level.

Awwwwwe. You two are so great!

[Liushka]

I honestly didn't really expect to ever be submissive with anyone. Part of me had an inclination for it, but between my very dominative side (that still is a great part of me) and that I never found a man I really connected with, it wasn't very obvious.

I honestly came to the realization that I could enjoy being a sub when I talked with my fiancé, even before we actually got together. He is the only person to dominate me, and I like it, even if it still causes me issues at times, though those are not related to our relationship as he is always doing his best for me and help me with many things. Thanks to him I am able to actually be a full fledge switch.

[Pegao]

i'm kind of in the same position as Liushka.. have always been more aggressive/dom.. and really found a lot of guys boring because of it.. i met my current partner when he was going through some crazy stuff.. that kind of interfered w/a relationship.. but is a really natural Dom. sorting his stuff out.. that side has kind of been.. clarified in him.. and is sexy as hell. we still butt heads.. bc we're both pretty stubborn guys that each want our way.. but he ends up getting his

[thir]

Dreams! Coming out of the blue when I was in my early 20's. A week later I started having dominant dreams.

Situation much like Liushka and pegao describes.

[Zarine13]

I posted in this thread a few months ago. I've changed my views since then. I'm starting to wonder if I'm submissive at all or just a bottom. I seem to be too feisty and sassy for any of the Doms I have met. So if all I wind up being is a bottom, I'm good with that. I *want* to find the one that will be able to dominate me, but if that means I have to stop being who I am, then I'll settle for being a bottom.