BDSM and former child abuse victim

[E.C. Holland]

Hello everyone,
I have been having a little trepidation in regards to my lifestyle choice recently. I enjoy my mates, and everything that we do, but I am a little afraid that my LONG history with being a child abuse victim is making it very easy for me to be okay with being called names and pushed and/or punished during sex. I have never felt okay with normal therapists (try being a teen and telling one that you LIKED being abused...that went over well). I just...need someone who is in the lifestyle and has been longer than I to tell me that I'm not just interested in asphixia play and name calling because I'm used to it.

Please help.

Fyrefly

If your therapist expressed shock at you having complex feelings about your childhood sexual abuse, he/she was both unprofessional and inexperienced.