how to spot an arsehole

[tessa]

In your experience, what signs (on-line, email, phone etc) can you pick up to warn you that a Dom won't treat you right?

If a dom ever says, "I'm polyamorous, but I don't allow my subs to be", don't just run from the building, but set it on fire as you leave.

[Lisais mine]

If a dom ever says, "I'm polyamorous, but I don't allow my subs to be", don't just run from the building, but set it on fire as you leave.

really? how do these people even get subs to talk to them?

[tessa]

really? how do these people even get subs to talk to them?

I have yet to figure out why any of those trolls get even a passing nod. A punch, now that I could understand.

Maybe naive desperation plays a part?

[DIXIE LASS]

If a dom ever says, "I'm polyamorous, but I don't allow my subs to be", don't just run from the building, but set it on fire as you leave.

I can think of something else I'd like to set fire to when I hear this one. This one has to be the lowest of the low, the MOST unforgivable, beyond the pale, a mortal sin.

DIXIE

[leah06]

I can think of something else I'd like to set fire to when I hear this one. This one has to be the lowest of the low, the MOST unforgivable, beyond the pale, a mortal sin.

DIXIE

Why? Lots of other things in D/s relationships are not equal; why is this a bottom-line requirement? In fact, if you read the polyamory thread, there are quite a few subs who say something like, I belong to Master alone; Master does as He pleases. This wouldn't suit me, but I don't see why it's totally different from a lot of other inequalities in these interactions.

[DIXIE LASS]

If a dom ever says, "I'm polyamorous, but I don't allow my subs to be", don't just run from the building, but set it on fire as you leave.

I can think of something else I'd like to set fire to when I hear this one. This one has to be the lowest of the low, the MOST unforgivable, beyond the pale, a mortal sin.

DIXIE

Why? Lots of other things in D/s relationships are not equal; why is this a bottom-line requirement? In fact, if you read the polyamory thread, there are quite a few subs who say something like, I belong to Master alone; Master does as He pleases. This wouldn't suit me, but I don't see why it's totally different from a lot of other inequalities in these interactions.

Rache,
Why do you always give me a hard time?

1. I'm speaking from a personal perspective. I'm only agreeing with Tessa.
Apparently this is a "bottom-line requirement" for both Tessa and me.

2. I'm not much of a sub to begin with and I guess this is one of the reasons
why I'm not. If there are some out there willing to accept this, I could
care less, but I don't pretend to be able to conceive of the way lots of
subs think and I'm certainly not looking around for a D/s relationship.

3. This particular attitude is just particularly outrageous and offensive. It
seems to me to be the highest kind of selfishness. Unadulterated
arrogance. Maybe it's because menage between me and only males is
MY fantasy. Why the hell should I give that up? After a
crack like this, an Ass-Dom-Hole would be lucky if I even let him
participate.

DIXIE

[Ozme52]

If a dom ever says, "I'm polyamorous, but I don't allow my subs to be", don't just run from the building, but set it on fire as you leave.

Is anyone reading this thread and thinking,'Oh shit, that describes my Dom!' Did you know really or is anything here a bit of an eye opener?

I can think of something else I'd like to set fire to when I hear this one. This one has to be the lowest of the low, the MOST unforgivable, beyond the pale, a mortal sin.

DIXIE

I think I'm safe.

[DIXIE LASS]

I think I'm safe.

Oz, you sure have a lot more confidence in your tractability than I do.

[Ozme52]

Oz, you sure have a lot more confidence in your tractability than I do.

Huh? You sure you're using the word tractable correctly?

I don't see how being open to letting my girl play without me makes me tractable.

[DIXIE LASS]

Huh? You sure you're using the word tractable correctly?

I don't see how being open to letting my girl play without me makes me tractable.

I know exactly what tractable means. I was trying to say that I wouldn't consider you tractable at all, just the opposite in fact. Hence, you might have confidence in your affability, congeniality, amiablility, etc., .......but if I crossed you I think I would be screaming, "Katy, bar the door". It was meant as a tongue-in-cheek joke. Sorry if it didn't come out that way.