Friendship

[denuseri]

Hey who says being friends precludes sexual attraction anyway?

Like, I know I turn on my nephews by just basically being there, I can tell, but that doesn't mean they stop being my nephews all of the sudden just becuase they "got wood" in their pockets.

Same goes with friends...of any sex.

So I say one can be sexually attracted to another person all day long and still manage to be "friends" so long as they have even a small amount of common sence and self disipline.

[Thorne]

Hey who says being friends precludes sexual attraction anyway?

No reason friends can't be sexually attracted. It's when the attraction is strong and mutual that friendships turn to romances. Which can also work. I've been friends with my wife for 40+years, and the attraction is still there.

Like, I know I turn on my nephews by just basically being there, I can tell, but that doesn't mean they stop being my nephews all of the sudden just becuase they "got wood" in their pockets.

LOL! I'll bet you turn on a lot of boys, anywhere you go.

So I say one can be sexually attracted to another person all day long and still manage to be "friends" so long as they have even a small amount of common sence and self disipline.

Yes, true. But common sense and self discipline seem to be rare commodities in this day and age, from my observations.

[thir]

Hey who says being friends precludes sexual attraction anyway?

The idea was that sexual attraction precludes friendship. I suppose because the sexual attraction 'pushes out' other feelings??

I have had sex with friends, and they are still friends. I have love without sex. And I have friendship without sex. And I have love and friendship and sex in one person - lucky me ;-)

But the impression I get, roughly speaking, is that a number of women think that friendship with men is possible, while a number of men think not -? And if so, why would that be?

Some say that men cannot be friends, that there is too much competition. What do the men say to that?

[DuncanONeil]

Some say that men cannot be friends, that there is too much competition. What do the men say to that?

Can not be friends with whom? Other men? Entirely possible!

[Thorne]

Can not be friends with whom? Other men? Entirely possible!

Let's not get pedantic, Duncan. The OP is about men and women being friends. Unless specifically stated otherwise, all comments and questions should be assumed to relate to that point, don't you think?

[DuncanONeil]

Let's not get pedantic, Duncan. The OP is about men and women being friends. Unless specifically stated otherwise, all comments and questions should be assumed to relate to that point, don't you think?

This started with a question about men and women being friend. I.e cross gender friendship, which implies same gender friendships are easy and accepted.
That is probably what engender the question. Since the assumption that men can be friends and women can be friends is explicit in the question asked.